Not their target demographic

There comes a point in your thirties where you start answering survey questions, and you realize that you are (more or less) telling marketers to ignore your feedback. When you have to pick the “34 – 45” option instead of the “25 – 33” option… your preferences and ideas have just become a whole lot less interesting.

One of the great moments in one of the great video games of all time

I was having dinner with a friend who helps create computer games the other day. This is a guy who actually has some decision making ability about which video games get made. I was telling him what computer games I loved, and what I desperately wished his company would make. And over the lobster mac and cheese at Lucky’s he looked at me and said, “Yeah, those were great games. But you’re just not our target demographic. To be successful, a game has to be a hit with 15 – 25 year old males. We can’t afford to make games they don’t like.” So not only am I not a video game designer’s target demographic, I never was one. If they made a game (I’m thinking of YOU “Black and White”) that I loved… well it was practically by accident. Later versions of games I loved almost always emphasized my less favorite parts of the game and entirely scrapped the cheerful world building I loved.

That got me thinking about how often I am not the target demographic. The truth is that in most media, I’m not the target demographic. I don’t like violence. Right there, I’ve made myself not the target demographic for 80% of movies. I don’t like meanness. That rules out all the remainder but a handful of Pixar films. Although there are definitely movies I could like, I’m not the target demographic. The movies I would enjoy are rarely being made. And if they are, I’ve already tuned out and don’t watch them.

They don’t want to impress me

Or when you’re standing on the street, and a guy drives by who is *so selling his image*. He’s in a low-riding car with a custom exhaust and a sound system that can deafen you at 20 feet. He’s got tinted windows (rolled down) and is slouching in a seat, not wearing a seatbelt and looking at the world with a jaded eye. My thirty-four year old Protestant-white self clucks and tongue and thinks, “Who are you impressing? You’re not impressing me!” Then I remember: I’m not his target demographic.

I used to work in the same building as Cambridge College

I’m not the target demographic for most bus ads (I already have a degree, thanks.) I’m not the target demographic of our local Red Sox radio station, which seems to find it impossible to avoid misogyny with even ONE of its talk show hosts. I’m not the target demographic for the salons that dot my town offering increasingly esoteric forms of hair removal and supplementation. I’m not who they’re talking to, or who they’re trying to reach.

It can almost be depressing sometimes. So few things – or people – are really designed to please and entice me. How can you be important if no one is even trying to sell you something?

When I get it that mood (usually after a trip to Gamestop trying to find something I want to play – where I am also NOT THE TARGET DEMOGRAPHIC) I remind myself of the delightful flip side.

They’re not MY target demographic, either.

These handsome guys are MY target demographic!

That guy in the car? He doesn’t impress me, but I don’t feel the need to impress him either. No platform shoes or tight dresses for me, thanks! That judgmental person I run into who has something bad to say about everyone? They’re not my target demographic. Those beauty magazines that tell me that I need an expensive and time consuming regime in order to be acceptable? I’m not their target demographic either. My husband loves me the way I am. I look better than I “have” to in order to be promotable at work. My church family will not look down on me if I wear last season’s styles. My neighbors will invite me over after bedtime to hang out even if I have a mis-allocation of hair, according to the latest trends.

So although it can be sad that so little is made to suit me, I am more than compensated by my liberation from having to impress those elements of society that are most oppressive!

Who is your target demographic? And which group do you wish would pander just a little more to what you want?

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Brenda currently lives in Stoneham MA, but grew up in Mineral WA. She is surrounded by men, with two sons, one husband and two boy cats. She plays trumpet at church, cans farmshare produce and works in software.

7 thoughts on “Not their target demographic”

  1. Pssst! Your video game buddy is wrong! Or rather, his company has more narrowly defined “success” for the genre of video games they produce (I’m guessing shooters). The trends to watch in video games are

    – more casual gamers getting into the mix… especially with mobile games on the rise

    – still heavily male dominated, but more women involved, and a rising backlash against misogyny and familiar sexist tropes (see

    – the generation of people who grew up on video games being targeted more and more often… especially with many kickstarter campaigns

    I went looking for proof and found this:

    Of 6,000+ “core gamers” (people who play 5+ hours per week), the mean age is 30. Younger players are more likely to be considered “core,” but the likelihood doesn’t diminish dramatically until people reach 45.

    So I agree with your conclusion — it’s not that you’re not in their target market… they’re not in yours!


    1. I agree, Jeff. He’s in a company that writes the big, really expensive console blockbusters. That’s a more traditional definition of “video game”…. there are more things out there that I want to play. They just aren’t sold at Gamestop for XBOX.

      I have OTHER friends who ARE writing video games I want to play, like my friends at 10 x 10 Room with their game Conclave.

      It was mostly the comment that got me thinking, grumpily, about it!


  2. Really interesting post!
    I have never really thought about some social interactions having ‘target demographics’. So good! This gave me a lot to think about (kinda felt like I just found out the twist to a good film actually), thankyou! 🙂


  3. I have moved into a new, somewhat less desirable target audience. How can they think I will buy a medicine that has all the side affects they list in those commercials? And who puts two claw-foot bathtubs on the beach? Sitting in a bathtub is not conducive …


  4. I’m in the position of *being* the target demographic – a white male in his late teens – and I still find that most of the AAA-industry doesn’t do a great job of catering to my tastes.

    It’s a bit sad when a disproportionate amount of the industry is chasing after a demographic that barely makes up the plurality of gamers, much less a majority. After a while, that demographic gets saturated while others are dry as a desert.


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